Have you ever babysat a person’s feelings in order to protect them?
There is a saying that goes “every man is not a bad guy” but this phrase can apply to both males and females. Although, everyone is their own individual. As people, it is a habit to gain the same tendencies as others. The concept of “birds of a feather flock together”.
Hurt people hurt people, is a true concept but there is one thing in common. It is the lack of love. Love comes with commitment and loyalty. Not just to the next but to yourself as well. Committing to anything or something is a reflection of yourself. Whether it be good or bad. What you think will be in a logical world, even if it approaches you in a roundabout way.
Most things that come to you are a reflection of yourself whether they be good or bad. You are a reflection of what comes to you, what you think will be in a logical world. Meaning, if you think negatively; then negativity will draw you. However, you must ask yourself ‘Are my actions aligning with what I want?’
I knew a fella that longed to be loved ‘unconditionally’ but didn’t have the complete understanding of what came with being loved ‘unconditionally’.
Many times we sacrifice ourselves for companionship but lose ourselves with it, finding things to love that have come with the companionship instead of loving the companion.
It’s safe to say that being a product of your environment is the reason for the misconception of love.
Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil, but is pleased with the truth. Love never gives up; and its faith, hope, and patience never fail.
Good News Translation
If love is supposed to be patient and kind, then why is it mistreated in such a way of no return?
Love is eternal. There are inspired messages, but they are temporary; there are gifts of speaking in strange tongues, but they will cease; there is knowledge, but it will pass.
Good News Translation
This leads back to the question at hand, why does the hurt man never want to hear his truth?
It is true that the truth hurts but the truth is the best thing you can give a person in order for them to become better.
Do you think most men like to be corrected? Or do they like to give corrections? Generally speaking, everyone wants a sense of control but in all honesty, you are responsible for how you respond to a situation or obstacle. Returning back to the quote “hurt people, hurt people” if we reflected more on the Golden Rule which is built on the principle of treating others as one wants to be treated.
In the world, it is meant for us to have challenges but the true test is how we deal with the challenges given to us. Understanding that although faced with hurt, struggles, and temptations; it does not mean you will not be able to stand firm and strong. Even when it may seem hard to withstand, you will learn with time that standing firm will give you the tools needed in order to endure your journey.
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